I still remember those days myself. I sit down with my mum, she flips through my workbooks and my notebooks and then taps her pencil on the table telling me to get ready for homework. Of course, my mum was teacher, so I've always thought that it was just a habit of hers. It only occurred to me that we had to do all that homework because school required us to when I heard my classmates complaining about it.
Fast forward to the current day and year, Jakjak is now in school. Homework in primary is quite different from those he had in pre-school (and not as much or as often). Along with the additional stress he feels while in school, it kind of gets messy when we sit down for homework.
I guess that kids see homework for what it is at their age level. Because a college student will treat homework differently than how a secondary school student would and definitely much more different than a primary school student. In terms of priority, in terms of impact and in terms of stress, a kid will treat homework simply as a nuisance to playing. As such, parents also see homework differently. It's that sense of responsibility that really kicks. We know that our kids need that homework done, but we also know our kids don't want it. And it becomes a chore to explain it to them which takes up time better spent actually doing the homework (and getting more playtime) in the first place.
After a few rumbles and tumbles with Jakjak, my wife hit me with a club. True enough, the point she wanted to let me know was quickly conveyed and understood. First, you shouldn't even attempt to teach about homework when you are unwell. Your personal frustration will just act as a catalyst to the additional frustration that is just about to mount. Second, do make sure that your son has had ample time to rest and be in a proper state of mind before you even mention that he has to do homework. Next, do tackle homework with extreme care. Especially when you both are on the edge of being irritable. Believe me, it's difficult to get back to the calmness of a windless afternoon (Never try to do homework when both of you have just woken up from an afternoon nap).
I do not have the same amount of patience that my wife has. And I don't have the same amount of cooling down period as well. It takes me twice the amoint of time it takes her to go from boiling mad to stoich. I may have anger management problems, but surely, it's not that bad. I just need some practice is all (maybe).
Fast forward to the current day and year, Jakjak is now in school. Homework in primary is quite different from those he had in pre-school (and not as much or as often). Along with the additional stress he feels while in school, it kind of gets messy when we sit down for homework.
I guess that kids see homework for what it is at their age level. Because a college student will treat homework differently than how a secondary school student would and definitely much more different than a primary school student. In terms of priority, in terms of impact and in terms of stress, a kid will treat homework simply as a nuisance to playing. As such, parents also see homework differently. It's that sense of responsibility that really kicks. We know that our kids need that homework done, but we also know our kids don't want it. And it becomes a chore to explain it to them which takes up time better spent actually doing the homework (and getting more playtime) in the first place.
After a few rumbles and tumbles with Jakjak, my wife hit me with a club. True enough, the point she wanted to let me know was quickly conveyed and understood. First, you shouldn't even attempt to teach about homework when you are unwell. Your personal frustration will just act as a catalyst to the additional frustration that is just about to mount. Second, do make sure that your son has had ample time to rest and be in a proper state of mind before you even mention that he has to do homework. Next, do tackle homework with extreme care. Especially when you both are on the edge of being irritable. Believe me, it's difficult to get back to the calmness of a windless afternoon (Never try to do homework when both of you have just woken up from an afternoon nap).
I do not have the same amount of patience that my wife has. And I don't have the same amount of cooling down period as well. It takes me twice the amoint of time it takes her to go from boiling mad to stoich. I may have anger management problems, but surely, it's not that bad. I just need some practice is all (maybe).
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