Anybody who answers "no" to this question is either lying or is someone who has never been a father before. We have always been given the notion, the belief, that fathers are fearless, authoritative pillars of the home. That they have to be this super hero figure and be invincible.
We do try to uphold that from time to time. After all, children need to have a father figure. And a father is as unique as a mother in that while they appear to be doing similar things for their children, they are actually doing it in different ways.
But behind the statuette image of the brave and strong father, it is still a fact that fathers are human too. Mothers are all too easy to understand when they show their emotions to their children. They can openly cry, smile, get excited, give hugs, kiss on the cheeks, and all the other maternal things. Fathers don't do that. And if they do, they don't do it often or openly. Somehow, society has already declared this as the norm.
So yeah, dads do get scared. We are not supermen, but we want our families to believe that we are. We also cry. We also smile. We also express ourselves to our loved ones. And we have our fears as well.
I know I do. The most significant of which (for me at least) is a look at the future, you know, when Jakjak is all grown up. I wonder what he would be saying about his childhood. I wonder what he would be saying about his dad. I wonder how he will take on the role of fatherhood in his own time. I hope, that when the time comes, I would get to hear him say "Thanks Dad, you did a good job". And that's all there is to it.
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